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Documenting the journey of building a life that is Beyond Measure. Focus on spiritual, finance, physical and emotional wellbeing.

  • Hey you.

    It’s crazy how now I see things differently.

    My career journey has been a mix of sweet and sour—though, looking back, it felt mostly sour at the time. I made many mistakes, missed a lot of things and focused on the wrong things as well. In those moments I really did feel like the worst person alive. I could never do anything right, so it seems.

    Only recently am I surprised at how those really dark moments are now serving as anchorage to a bold version of me. Somehow, those pitfalls became the learning curves I now use to navigate difficult circumstances with ease.

    Maybe that really bad day at work—the kind we’ve all had—just had to happen. Possibly to learn something if you allow yourself to. Be it to polish up or learn a new skill,  learn about people,and perhaps learn about yourself, so that the future you can thrive.

    Cheer up, make it through the tough season, you will thank yourself later.

  • Silent battles

    Just this morning, I lied. While I was wiping my tears, with puffy red eyes, I texted back ‘Am doing well thanks and how are you’ Clearly I wasn’t. But isn’t it a lie we all tell from time to time.

    We have learnt to keep some of our struggles to ourselves. Sometimes because there is no one to share the load with. Or maybe life has taught us that everyone else is busy with their own problems, who has time for mine. Or maybe we are just tired of being the one who is constantly crying, the weak one and perhaps people might be getting tired of your problems. One reason or the other we chose to face some problems alone.

    What if we really didn’t have to. There is an open call from heaven. The father is always eager to hear from you and more so help you.

    Mathew 11:28

    You don’t have to fight alone.

  • Systems

    What’s are the operating systems in your life ?

    Financial systems

    Mental systems

    Emotional systems

    Spiritual systems

    Physically health systems

    Relationship systems

    It’s either you create the systems  you want. Or fall into the trap of the outside systems that may not even reflect who you truly are .

  • Extra time on your hands

    In a fast paced life, the moment we get a few moments of silence, maybe a canceled appointment, no walk in clients or a series of less demanding tasks, the mind can quickly switch to idle mode.

    It’s so easy to slip into the scrolling mode and let the free time pass as the mind unwinds. Is it wrong to take a break?

    Well I have a few suggestions, why not use that time to build something of value, that doesn’t necessarily have to do with cashing in more money. Why don’t you check in on the old friend you rarely talk to. Call your parents to hear how there are. Or any family member you aren’t staying with. Check on yourself too, how are you doing, are you happy, is there anything stealing your peace . Check on your core workers how they have been at home, how they are surviving the economic hardship in your country. Maybe you can’t talk to anyone, but you can still talk to God . Talk to God about them, talk to God about you, talk to God about Him.

    The small things that can actually make you matter more than what money can ever do.

    What do you do with your extra time?

  • Why you left

    What’s a mystery from your own life that you’ve never solved?

    Just a few days ago, I got a friend request from someone I once loved so dearly. Back then I was convinced I could never love anyone else but this particular person.

    At first I accepted the request, I was honestly curious. The profile clearly indicated ‘married’ . I even saw a few posts showing  a happy family that’s just starting. I knew I had to make a decision a hard one. I had to unfriend and block.

    The truth is, I will always be his past, and reconnecting would not bring any peace to the matter. In the end I will be the one hurting the most. Things of the past should remain in the past.

    It left me wondering though, why you left me in the very first place. He was my first love… A love that died and killed a part of me.

    Some things I will never know. Don’t think I want to know.

  • After the storm

    When do you feel most productive?

    It’s usually after a meltdown, a silent war that happens in my mind.

    I usually get tired of the tears because no one will be there to wipe them off. I then take my plan book, deep breath, and then boom am in work mode.

    Don’t think I will tell you that 5 minutes ago I was crying. I will put up an act that will help me go about my business. The task box ticking, as if that’s how my heart heals.

    Maybe that’s how I heal. My mind won’t be able to handle the heavy mental work, so I tune to the next possible thing. It could be a deep clean of my space. Doing all the things on my list of procrastination. Handle all the suspended matters. And just like that the job is done and I feel better about myself.

    The problems would not have been solved , yes, but at least I would have covered much ground on my to do list.

  • To rebuild first destroy

    Lately I have been realising that my life has been anchored on some really bad foundations.

    Some belief systems I have to unlearn , in order to start building the life I truly deserve.

    Some real work I need to do before I can move forward.

    Some real effort I got to put in if I am ever to make it out of this cycle of failure.

    But I will do it anyway. Yes the generational cycle will end with me.

    My children will have other battles to fight, not this one. This one is mine. I will fight to lay the right foundations, I pray they will be able to build.

  • Do the inner work

    It’s so easy to feel like a total failure. You see others archiving great milestones. Promotions, high sales, great reviews, while for you, surviving the day alone is a big fight.

    But what if I tell you ,that will never change until you shift focus from the outside to the inside.

    I realised that I was too busy just seeing my faults compared to others in my profession. But never took time to intentionally map out a way to actually grow from my faults than drown from them.

    The realisation of this made me feel light, it stirred hope and gave me a new energy boost. And this statement finally clicked;

    Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today .

    So do the inner work and you will find your peace there.

    Focus on your growth .

  • Letting go and letting God

    Describe a decision you made in the past that helped you learn or grow.

    Those who want to save their lives will lose them. But those who lose their lives for me will find them.
    — Matthew 16:25
    What does that mean to you?

  • Think thrice before you act

    What do you feel about what they said or did ?

    Where is this feeling coming from?

    Why did they say or do that (what was their point of view)?

    For a long time, work drama has always been one of my big meltdowns. I would literally break because of a single comment. And if I am to be honest, even how someone just looked at me or didn’t say anything when I felt like maybe they should.

    But as things have been shifting within me, my approach to this has changed.

    I ask myself those questions, and when I get the logical answer to them. I navigate my way through with a steady heart.

    Like today, it made me feel like I am not doing the job right and they are also not seeing my effort. On searching deeper I realised this feeling comes from the fear of how I lost my previous job. This made me see how my past experiences were trying to trap me . But when I got to understand the why part, it helped me dethrone the negative narrative and I continued my tasks with peace, clarity and willingness.

    Your questions may be different but as long as you find a way to navigate or handle the situation without having your peace robbed. That’s the ultimate goal.

    Keep your peace.

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